When you are not in the mainstream, then, you are ‘the others.’

We always have the mindset that the mainstream is the yardstick or the epitome of the positive aspect or the right side. When people have that kind of mindset, everybody seems to follow blindly whatever that the majority does, regardless the appropriateness or the rational of the action. Consequently, when everybody does the same thing, then, that thing would automatically become the appropriate thing to be done.
The core of the issue here is that when you are thinking differently from the mainstream, would you still be treated equally and similarly by the majority? Definitely not! When you are different from the mainstream, you will be totally ignored by the majority. They would try, by all means, to exclude you from the community. That is when you will feel left out and disappointed. You feel such because you have been very dear to them and invest so much time and care and love that you feel your existence is very vital in their lives. Of course, it would be disheartening when you found out that all that were vain and useless.
Well, how would you face this problem of exclusion from the mainstream? The most essential matter here is that you have to be wise enough to say or to handle things. It is not that we just keep our opinions to ourselves. But, it is about how wisely we express our thoughts. We have to phrase our thoughts very carefully that it would not hurt the opposite side. If it was not working, then, you should try to exclude yourselves automatically from the mainstream, before they have the chance to do so. Then, you can form another mainstream. I am sure there would be people that have the same way of thinking and philosophy with you. As the saying goes “birds with the same feather flock together.” The same goes to human beings. If you were not meant to be somebody’s somebody, then, just let go, instead of feeling stupid and disappointed all the times.
Should we assimilate and adapt ourselves to the mainstream? It really depends on the situation. If the mainstream was right, then, you should correct your mindsets and join the mainstream. (However, sometimes we are just not that wise to notice that we are wrong.) However, as I have mentioned just now, the mainstream is not always correct. That is why we should really be critical in viewing things so that we would always be the correct ones.