Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Being optimistic = peace!!!

I have been thinking of why there are conflicts and quarrels in this world. Finally, I have come to a considerably reasonable and sensible answer.

The first point that come across my mind is the diverse way of thinking that every human being has. Human beings think really differently. Just by looking at a picture, for instance, human being could have different, and I really mean different, judgments, interpretation and opinions. As the saying goes, 'one's meat is another's poison,' one's interpretation on a subject is really unique and diverse. This diversity, if not handled well, would certainly lead to conflict.

Let's illustrate this with another example. Our mothers always have the good intentions when they warn or ask or advise us to be more careful in certain things. Their intentions are indeed pure and kind. However, often, the receivers of the message would find those advises irritating and drowning. They are just being caring and concern yet the receivers might find it pushy and urging. This would ultimately lead to conflict and spoil a intimate and loving relationship.

How can we overcome such horrible situation? Well, we have to be very positive in viewing things. Well, some critics might find it overly optimistic. However, this is the only way to keep everything fine. It is advisable to take the good intention of the others into account all the time. We should turn anything negative into positive to guarantee ourselves a balanced and harmonious life, at the same time, keep a healthy, close and intimate relationship with the others. Via this method, we shall have a wider range of social circle and it's easier to keep everything in order.

Hopefully, I myself will anchor myself to this way of thinking and attitude, or if I had started it, maintain to this principle and get better in this.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Loved, Love

I loved this thing,
I was willing to sacrifice anything
to make sure that I got a piece of that thing.
I didn't know the passion for that thing lost
so fast that my heart froze
and not willing to love.

I love this another thing,
I am willing to sacrifice anything
to make sure that I get a piece of that thing.
I hope the passion for that thing lasts
as long as my lust
and willing to continue loving.

Is it worth the price??

At times, we would reflect back whether that something we have done is worthwhile. And, unfortunately, you would find that there are certain things and decisions that you made are indeed stupid and childish and not worthwhile at all. The thing is, how do we know that we have made a wrong move? We are able to do so because we have gone through certain things, and we are growing more mature.

Up to this stage, we might think that we are well-equipped with experience and knowledge to survive in this realistic world. However, there will be questions of whether we should grieve over the dark and sad experience that we have had before. If we deleted such experience, of course, we would feel much better and happier. But, deleting memory is not an easy task. There will be also people arguing over the importance of those experience as the foundation of who we are today. People might be caught in limbo at this stage. Certain things are just too difficult to be set. It is difficult to persuade oneself to stand still at one principle (which Morrie, a favorite lecturer of Mitch Albom in Tuesdays with Morrie, refers to as tension of the opposite.)

Therefore, the essence of a happy life should be the following:
- whatever the principle that one holds in his life, one should prioritize his happiness, as well as the well being of the others;
- grieving over one's past is useless (besides the lessons and experience given from the past events);
- there is no fixed way or theory to live happily. We must always be flexible and willing to change in order to suit our ever-changing life.

Friday, January 16, 2009

Tuesdays with Morrie -Part 2-

"Whenever I went in my life, I met people wanting to gobble up something new. Gobble up a new car. Gobble up a new piece of property. Gobble up the latest toy. And then they wanted to tell you about it. 'Guess what I got? Guess what I got?' - Is life all about the material aspects and external happiness? Are you sure that those things would give you ultimate happiness and satisfaction? This is something that we, including I myself, need to ponder about all the times.

"Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness." - Money is important in our lives, but, it is just a tool, something that we use to exchange things with the others. It is not the most important aspect. The most obvious piece of evidence, moderate family could possibly lives happier than the rich ones.

There are many interesting quotes in Tuesdays with Morrie. Get the benefits by reading the book, and you would get a new perspective in viewing things and life.


Sunday, January 11, 2009

Interesting quotes in Tuesdays with Morrie -Part I-

I had read through half of the book "Tuesdays with Morrie" by Mitch Albom. It is an interesting book. I find the following quotes are indeed captivating.

"So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when the are busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."- which i think is very true. If we are chasing the wrong things in life, we will end up having nothing in our lives after tonnes of effort had been poured out.

"The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture does not work, do not buy it."-this is another strong point here. We always tend to follow whatever that the majority is doing, without rationalize the objective behind. We have to be brave to say "NO" to things that we are against with but not following those wrong concepts blindly.

To be continued...

Sunday, January 4, 2009

New Year

Everybody wants a new good start and prosperous new beginning in this brand new year. The same goes to me. Though my zodiac, which is ox, forecasts that it would be a less fortune year compared to the previous year for me, I believe that I can live my life well and even better than the previous years.

I believe that it depends on how the way we want our life to be, rather than believing in what the zodiac says. We should not be influenced by the negative assumptions made. If we are influenced, the possibility of the forecast becomes truth is indeed high.

Finally, I wish everybody happy new year and have a fantastic new year. =)